What is Gaslighting? How to deal with it?
Gaslighting is a form of psychological manipulation in which the perpetrator seeks to sow seeds of doubt in a targeted individual or in members of a targeted group, making them question their own memory, perception, or sanity. This can be done in a variety of ways, such as by denying events that have occurred or by twisting the truth to make the victim doubt their own version of events.
If you are being gaslit, it is important to recognize the signs and take action to protect yourself. Here are some steps you can take:
- Trust your instincts: If something feels off, pay attention to your intuition. Don’t dismiss your feelings as irrational or unimportant.
- Keep a record: Write down what the gaslighter is saying and doing, and compare it to your own recollection of events.
- Seek support: Talk to someone you trust about what is happening. A therapist can help you process your emotions and provide guidance on how to deal with the situation.
- Set boundaries: Establish clear boundaries with the gaslighter and stick to them. This might mean limiting contact or refusing to engage in certain conversations.
- Practice self-care: Take care of yourself by eating well, getting enough sleep, and engaging in activities that make you feel good.
- Consider leaving: If the gaslighting is severe and ongoing, it may be necessary to leave the relationship or situation. This can be a difficult decision, but it may ultimately be the healthiest choice for you.
Remember that gaslighting is a form of emotional abuse, and it is not your fault. You deserve to be treated with respect and kindness, and you have the right to protect yourself from harmful behavior.